Undoubtedly, the toughest part of parenting is to be a tough parent, when you need to. The mush is all good. The feeding, the diaper changing, the cuddling, the kisses, the playing. But, it is also about striving to ensure these little beings are raised as strong, kind, respectful, and empathetic human beings.
Good behavior needs to be taught and inculcated. It doesn’t just happen. It takes a lot of hard work and most importantly self disciplining. When the child misbehaves, our first reaction should not be to yell or worse, spank the child. That’s called ‘rough love’. ‘Tough love’ is what you need for effective parenting, and not rough love. So, while you can be stern on what you expect from the child, you don’t have to really resort to a whack. Remember, rough love will NEVER give you the desired result, though your intentions must have been right. Whereas, with tough love your child will learn consequences and taking responsibility of their own actions.
Discipline doesn’t need to wait till your child is of a particular age. It can start at infancy. A little baby needs you, but as he grows older, his needs become wants, and, that’s when you need to start setting limits. Discipline isn’t about punishment. It’s about teaching and guidance, which can—and should—start in infancy’s earliest stages.
Discipline the child out of love, and not out of fear. Always approach discipline in a loving and proactive way.
Discipline isn’t just about giving kids ultimatums. Instead, it ensures children are gaining the skills they need to become responsible adults. Appropriate discipline teaches kids how to make better choices. For example, when a child loses his bicycle permission for riding out of the society, he learns how to make safer choices next time. Similarly, ignoring mild misbehavior can teach kids socially appropriate ways to manage their frustration as well. If you refuse to give in to a temper tantrum, your child will learn that’s not a good way to get his needs met. Children are at a stage of their lives when they are still learning to control their emotions. Showing their emotions aggressively at times is something that most kids are accused of. However, we can nip such tendencies in the bud if we take precautions beforehand.
In a nutshell, it is important to understand that discipline, is not something that can be learnt in a day or even in a week. Disciplining kids is an ongoing process, and we can only gain success at it if we keep at it right from an early age. And, once we successfully manage to instill it in our children, they will surely grow up to be the confident and honest human beings.
Thank you Veera for choosing me as your Mumma <3